Letter To The Person Who Is Sad Going Into Yet Another Year of Sadness

We have all had sadness in our homes and to those who have had something traumatic or life-changing event occur in their lives, take time to grieve. It’s going to take time and may be a good bit of time to get through it. Spend time with photographs that might help you get through your grief. Share with friends and family and take those moments of sorrow to reflect in order to seize this moment of sadness and/or pain in order to get through it but…

For the person who lives in constant sorrow day after day, month after month and year after year, get busy and be the person God intended for you to be. You have worth and value and to spend your days lamenting, moaning and feeling sorry for yourself is just not healthy. And, if someone or some group has hurt you just remember, its only for a season. Be sad for that season but soon and very soon capture the moment with your greatness and move forward. Our happiness is not dependent on others. Our happiness is dependent on God in us. He is our happiness and He has a definite plan for our lives.

And what of your value? What are your gifts? What talents do you possess? What of your influence?

You have importance.You are valuable. You are important and valuable not only to God but to those around you. You mean something in this life. There is a job that you’re to do. There is only one you. Only you have those particular eyes, hand prints, facial combination and personality. There is not another you and so therefore the you that is on this earth must do what it’s been put here by God to do so get going.

You have gifts. How do you find your gifts? Look at your passion. Some are here to provide music for the ears. Others are here to cook, clean, organize, enlighten, administrate, teach, share, influence and the list goes on and on and on. If you spend your time doing anything other than what you’re here for, people in your circle of influence are missing what you’re there to provide. There are people that need you! Each of us are limited in what we can do and that is why every person must do what God intended for them to do. I’m not an organizer so I need someone in my circle of influence to help me in that area. While I cook, I’m not a cook so the cooks out there give me ideas for presenting food to my family. It would never do to have me keep records in an organization or sit by someone’s bedside day in and day out and so there are those whom God fashioned for that very purpose. Are you one of those folks? Everyone whom God has chosen has gifts.

What talent do you have? Yes, you have a talent. Your gift is what God gave you. Your talent is something in your life that you’ve developed over time such that you’re quite good at it. What is that talent? It could be cooking, counseling, decorating, and that list goes on. Your talent is needed at your work place, in your home, with your family, among your friends and it’s there for you to do. You must share your talent.

Your influence is null and void if you’re always sad and pitiful because people in your reach are hungry for those gifts, talents and abilities that make you- you. Can you photograph? Then go out and taken those images of those people in your lives. Hand them a thumb drive of their memories and bless them with those photos. Are you a cook? Bake those goods and pass them out. Take your best dishes to work, share them with friends and family. Is talking your thing? Share, impress, encourage and beat down every door with your side of the story such that you’ve influenced those who needed your conversation to get them through this next moment; this next day. Are you one to sit at the bedside of a sick person? Then go and put your warm hand in the hand of another giving them the warmth of friendship and company. Homes are full of needy people. Be that encourager that is so needed. Can you repair, fix or improve on tangible items? Well, there you go… Help others improve their homes, cars, and personal situation. Can you “get it together” ? People who are messy need folks who have it all “together”. So, if you have that gift or talent, use your influence to help others.

The bottom line here is that you have a job to do in this life. And, maybe it could be to use what has happened to you to help others but living in a sad state of misery and lamenting is never the way to go especially when you have a job to do.

Now, it must be said. If you find this difficult and can’t seem to get past your unhappy feelings, it may be important for you to see a specialist or doctor to help you regulate medication. Maybe there is an imbalance somehow but if you’re just moaning and complaining constantly day after day, month after month and year after year and for no good reason…it’s time to step up and share your values, gifts, talents and influence with the world.

And, hey, I need someone to help me organize. Is that you? Please give me a call.

Josie