We all know what disappointment feels like. You know, the feelings that trigger emptiness, sadness, lack of trust, regret, betrayal, frustration, blame, stress and many other awful feelings. It has been said that the expectation for disappointment is bred, and not born. I’m not sure, but we’ve all experienced disappointment at one time or another. I know I have. And, I know I’ve caused it in others as well.
One thing that brings about disappointment is when people don’t keep their word. They say one thing and do another. This is disturbing, hurtful and causes a feeling of betrayal. Keeping our word is paramount in any relationship. Rather than betrayal, keeping one’s word can build trust.
My husband and I have found in our own lives that we have to work on keeping our word! In talking about this each of us realize that it is important for each of us to set the tone and be the example. And wow! Since becoming parents, there is the realization that great importance hinges on teaching our son to follow this basic rule and to know that we will as well. We seek to do what we say and we have talked about this in order for us to the best of our ability, keep our word.
In this, diligence is sought regarding saying what we mean and meaning what we say. And it’s sometimes a struggle. No doubt. But, we both can see how this important truth will effect his entire life. In this he will learn that he can believe the words of his parents. They can be trusted and counted on. Where he is concerned, it will be a trait that he will himself learn and others will believe his words which as a result will cause them to speak greatness over him and most of all trust him as he also develops this character trait of honesty. This is our desire for him.
In this unjust world each of us must work hard to make a promise and then fulfill that commitment. It is very often difficult and from time to time each of us fail but our goal is to prevent great frustration, disappointment and most importantly to be a person of our word. So, the mantra is: “Don’t talk about it. Be about it!”
When we find that our expectation or desires haven’t been fulfilled, we’re learning that we have to say something. My mother always said “Bad continues when good people say nothing”. We all have a level of expectation. We must choose how to react to the disappointment. We must use our caring heart to express the disappointment and remember the outcome is our choice. If talk about the feeling of disappointment, it could change the situation or help it dissipate the negative occurring again. Carrying the disappointment could lead to depression, disconnect from a loved one, and apathy so we should certainly say something and not hold it in.
Don’t talk about it! Be about it!
Our passions create goals, dreams, outcomes and desires. Disappointment is a reflection of those things when they don’t occur as we expect. If we are disappointed and show those feelings, it only means we truly cared about that issue. The higher the disappointment, the stronger the passion. It is not time to “stand down” but instead, share our disappointment in a loving manner.
Disappointment can be a single opportunity for great progress, learning, and growth. It’s important to take the time to deal with the issue and use it as a learning tool for personal situations. We can iron out the kinks and use the knowledge from the experience to act more accurately in future situations.
Just “Be about it!”
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